Are you an anal expert looking to really stretch your horizons? Are you looking for the biggest, thickest butt plugs money can buy?
This review will look at the absolute best, body-safe XL butt plugs available to buy in 2020. We’ll cover:
- Thick extended wear butt plugs
- Extra-long butt plugs
- Graduated plugs for anal training
- Uniquely-shaped plugs
- Inflatable plugs
We’ll also provide some basic tips for what to look for in a thick butt plug, and things you need to keep in mind when shopping around.
Let’s get to it.
Comparing the Best Thick & Large Butt Plugs
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|1||nJoy Pure Plug 2.0(Lg)||3.50||2.00||Steel||Heavy & dense
Pull ring base
|7||Egg Plug (XL)||6.00||2.60||Silicone||9 sizes to choose from
T-base for extended wear
|19||Egg Plug (Monster)||7.50||3.60||Silicone||9 sizes
T-base for extended wear
|20||Ergo Plug (Lg)||4.75||2.30||Silicone||Prostate bulb
T-base for extended wear
5 sizes and 6 colors
|21||Tantus Ringo||5.00||2.25||Silicone||Gradual taper for training
Thick neck for anal stretching
|22||Tristan 2||3.75||2.05||Silicone||Optional bullet vibe
Great for stretching
Prostate stimulation bulb
|23||The Slink (Med)||16.50||2.40||Silicone||Long for depth play
Flexible and soft
Suction cup base
|24||LoveHoney Inflatable||4.50||3.50||Latex||Inflatable hand pump
Quick release valve
|25||Colt XL Big Boy||4.50||3.00||Silicone exterior||It's... cheap?||5.0||40|
|26||Blush Carbon Fiber (Lg)||5.75||2.50||Silicone||Carbon fiber pattern
|27||Tantus Cone (Lg)||10.70||3.50||Silicone||Gradual, even taper
Best large anal trainer
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Best Overall Large Butt Plug: The Egg Plug
Egg Plug Specs:
Our Rating: 9.6
Price: $30 – $160
Insertable Length: 3″ (XS) – 7″ (Monster)
Max Girth: 1.3″ (XS) – 3.6″ (Monster)
Materials: Firm or Ultra Soft Silicone
Features: Flared T-base, 9 sizes to choose from
This whole mega-review is going to be variants of us asking “how does this compare to the Egg Plug?”
That’s because the Egg plug really sets the bar for what a large butt plug should be. It’s available in 9 sizes all the way up to XXXL and Monster, and even the smaller sizes are fairly big.
The plug is designed to fill you up with it’s bulbous egg shape, and sit comfortably in place with the flat T-base. The super-soft silicone is great for all-day wear, or just for warming up or double penetration during sex.
- Choose your size: 9 sizes to choose from for any experience level.
- Supersoft silicone: Makes these plugs have a lot of give and flexibility once inside you. Also available in firmer black silicone.
- All-day wear: These large butt plugs are super comfortable and provide unbeatable ‘fullness’ for extended wear.
- Not the most visually appealing butt plug. But we care more about performance!
The Egg plug is going to be difficult to dethrone as the best overall XL butt plug. The size options and ergonomics of the toy more than make up the lack of visual ‘wow’ factor.
It’s not the flashiest butt plug, but if you’re looking for unbeatable fullness and super comfy silicone, this is absolutely a top-notch anal toy!
Best XL Anal Plug for Men: Oxballs Ergo Plug
Ergo Plug Specs:
Our Rating: 9.5
Price: $32, $39, $56, $76, $92
Insertable Length: 2.75″, 3″, 3.75″, 4.75″, 5.75″
Max Girth: 1.3″, 1.65″, 2″, 2.3″, 2.7″
Materials: Regular or ultra soft silicone
Features: Bulbed shape for prostate play, T-base for extended wear.
The Ergo Plug by Oxballs is every bit as good of a large anal plug as the Egg Plug. It loses a couple of points simply because it doesn’t scale up to the massive XXL and Monster sizes of the Egg Plug, but for 99% of the anal explorers out there it’s a plenty large toy.
Ergo plug sizing chart:
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And true to its name, the Ergo plug is incredibly comfortable for all-day wear – especially if you opt for the blubbery supersoft silicone. It’s also a great large butt plug for men because of the unique “kidney bean” shape to the plug. The rounded head is fantastic for prostate play, while providing all the same sensations of fullness.
- Prostate stimulation: the bulbed head provides some extra p-spot pleasure for the guys out there
- 5 sizes: We’re talking about the Large and XL plugs for this review, but there are also smaller sizes available
- Great colors: the firm silicone is available in black, red, blue, yellow, or orange swirled with black. The supersoft silicone is available in smoke grey or metallic “blueballs” blue.
- Extended Wear: super comfortable for all-day wear wit ha secure t-bar base.
- Doesn’t get truly massive, although 2.7″ diameter on the XL plug is still a lot.
If you like the Egg Plug, but want a bit more targeted p-spot stimulation, the Ergo plug is the way to go. Amazing quality, awesome colors, and the same all-day wearability make this a fantastic large anal plug for any guy looking for the next big thing!
Best Large Trainer Plug: Tantus Ringo
Tantus Ringo Specs:
Our Rating: 7.6
Insertable Length: 5″
Max Girth: 2.25″
Materials: Ultra Soft Silicone
Features: Thick neck for anal stretching
The Tantus Ringo toes the line between what would be considered a very large butt plug for your average person, and a medium-large butt plug for an experienced user.
As far as “standard” butt plugs go, it’s quite thick and large. But as far as the rest of this list goes, it’s one of the smaller butt plugs featured.
But we feel it deserves a place as it’s in the perfect size and shape to practice anal stretching and move on to the truly large plugs on this list. The thick neck provides a great stretch and really lets you loosen up for bigger and bigger things.
- Tapered: So you can work up from smaller plugs up to the maximum girth of the toy.
- Thick neck: once the plug is fully in, Ringo has a wider neck than most standard butt plugs, meaning you get a nice anal stretch and can practice loosening up.
- Silicone: Tantus uses some of the best, soft silicone in the business. So you know it will slide in silky smooth every time.
- Not ideal for long term wear – the thick neck often needs some assistance to stay in place.
- The over 5″ insertable is a bit too long for a plug this firm and may bump up against your sigmoid wall.
Ringo is a fantastic medium-large butt plug. Not truly XL like some of the plugs on this list, but more than large enough for even the experienced players out there.
The slow taper and thick neck means you’ll get a real stretch, which also helps loosen up to take even bigger toys. And Tantus’ silicone is soft, yet firm enough to really hit the spot.
Best Thick Neck: Vixen Tristan 2
Tristan II Specs:
Our Rating: 8.8
Insertable Length: 3.75″
Max Girth: 2.05″
Features: Thick neck for stretching, insertable vibrating bullet, T-base
Tristan 2 butt plug by Vixen has your fairly traditional bulbous head shape. Where it differs is the thick neck, which is almost as wide as the max girth of just over 2 inches. That means, once inserted, you’re still getting a good, static anal stretch that provides incredible sensation play, and helps you learn to relax for bigger objects.
It also comes with an optional bullet vibe, which is an excellent complement to the slightly firmer silicone of the plug, which transmits vibrations incredibly well.
- Thick neck: very little dropoff from the bulb to the neck makes this plug great for static anal stretching.
- Optional bullet vibe: available with or without a bullet vibe for extra stimulation.
- The silicone: a great medium firmness. Delivers better targeted pressure compared to the Egg Plug, without ever being so firm it’s uncomfortable.
- The thick neck that makes this plug so great for training also makes it hard to keep in place for extended wear.
Vixen is a manufacturer known for their high-quality and realistic silicone, and the Tristan 2 is no exception. It’s an intermediate-advanced sized plug with a lot of upside and no real downsides that will still provide incredible sensations even if you size up to truly massive mega-plugs.
Best Long Plug for Depth Play: The Slink
Our Rating: 8.9
Price: $69 – $369
Insertable Length: 12.4″, 16.5″, 20.5″, 24.5″
Max Girth: 2.1″, 2.4″, 2.65″, 3.2″, 3.6″
Materials: Supersoft, flexible silicone
The Slink is the ultimate long anal toy for extreme depth play. The small starts off at just over 12 inches insertable, working all the way up to the XXL which is a whopping 24 inches insertable.
The Slink is designed to gradually thicken as you take more of the toy. They start thin, but can get quite thick. Even the smallest size has a maximum girth of 2.1 inches, which is definitely what we’d consider an expert level toy. Don’t even get us started on the massive 3.6 inch girth of the XXL Slink…
Here’s a comparison chart of the 5 Slink sizes:
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Designed to be flexible enough to follow the contours of your colon, while also firm enough not to double-up on itself and always let you know how deep it is.
- Ultimate depth play: go deeper than you’ve ever gone before for incredible sensations!
- Amazing silicone: Squarepeg Toys makes top-notch ultrasoft silicone which is the perfect material for a toy like this
- Supreme comfort: the Slink is so flexible and soft that you hardly realize it’s as big as it is!
- Price: That’s a lotta material, and it is super high-quality silicone
Look, you either love or hate this extra long butt plug. If you’re looking to explore depth play then there really is no better choice and it’s a perfect 10 / 10. But if you’re not into depth play this toy then this just is never going to be the toy for you.
As always, this is a truly advanced toy, and always be sure to listen to your body and play within your limits.
Tex by Tantus is another great extra-long silicone plug. It’s a little firmer than the slink, but still very soft and flexible, with graduated bulbed ridges for extra pleasure. A total length of 15 inches and max diameter of 2.75, it’s sure to fill you up!
Best Large Metal Plug: nJoy Pure Plug 2.0 XL
Pure Plug 2.0 XL Specs:
Our Rating: 9.6
Insertable Length: 3.5″
Max Girth: 2″
Materials: 100% Stainless Steel
Features: Secure, flared O-ring base
The Pure Plug 2.0 XL is a large – and heavy – stainless steel butt plug made of the high quality polished steel all nJoy toys are known for. At 3.5 inches it’s not too long, and at 2 inches max diameter it’s a good size to complement the hardness of stainless steel.
The polished stainless steel is an incredibly luxurious material that provides a sleek, sexy aesthetic for an XL butt plug. And to top it off, all nJoy toys come in a satin storage case which adds to the look.
- Heavy – stainless steel is much heavier than silicone, which makes the Pure Plug 2.0 exciting for long-term wear.
- Easy insertion & removal – the O-ring base makes it easy to insert and remove the plug, and ensures it stays right where you put it.
- All-day wear – the thin neck feels comfortable for hours, and stainless steel can be used with long-lasting silicone lubes
- Some reviewers don’t love the feeling of the grooves in the head of the plug
No one makes better metal toys than nJoy, and there’s a reason why toys like the Pure Wand have become staples in so many bedrooms across the world. The Pure Plug 2.0 XL may not be the strictly biggest plug on this list but it’s plenty girthy, great for extended use, and the weight feels incredibly satisfying inside you.
More Great Metal Butt Plugs
Not what you were looking for? Check out our whole mega-review on the best metal anal plugs out there, although keep in mind the Pure Plug 2.0 is the biggest (and best) of the lot.
Best Inflatable Plug: LoveHoney Vibrating Inflatable
LoveHoney Inflatable Butt Plug Specs:
Our Rating: 7.0 / 10
Insertable Length: 4.5″
Max Girth: Depends on how adventurous you are…
Materials: Latex blend
Features: Inflatable hand-pump, wired vibrator remote
A disclaimer: this toy is made of latex rubber, not silicone. Latex is nontoxic, but it is porous which mean the tiny holes in the material can harbor bacteria over time. Some people are also allergic to latex, so obviously don’t use it if you’re one of those people.
All that said, this is our favorite inflatable butt plug – and it can get truly huge when pumped up 10-15 times. Once inflated, the built-in vibrator will provide insane pleasure as the thick plug hums and buzzes inside your ass.
At under $30 it does feel kind of cheap – latex isn’t as nice a material as silicone, the hand pump sometimes pops off, and the core of the plug is very firm before it’s inflated.
We like to think of this inflatable butt plug as a short-term tool for amazing orgasms that will eventually need to be thrown out. Your mileage may vary.
- Incredible fullness: inflatable butt plugs can get bigger than the thickest plugs on this list
- Wired vibrator: for intense prostate orgasms once the plug is inflated
- Latex rubber: do not use if you or your partner(s) have a latex allergy. Latex is porous and can harbor bacteria over time.
- Cheap construction: the plug just feels kind of cheap (it IS less than $30).
Again, use at your own discretion. This is the only latex anal toy we’ve ever recommended, and we honestly wish it were silicone. But the inflatable silicone plugs we’ve seen don’t have vibrators, and usually have other design flaws that make them hard to use.
If you do purchase this toy, you need to clean it immediately after use, do not store next to other plastics, and should replace it within 3-6 months. That said, if you take good care of this inflatable butt plug, it will take great care of you and give you some mind-blowing anal orgasms.
Best Affordable Large Plug: Colt XL
Colt XL Big Boy Specs:
Our Rating: 5.3
Insertable Length: 4.5 inches
Max Girth: 3 inches
The Colt XL Big Boy isn’t the best XL butt plug on this list. But it IS the cheapest, by far. At just $40 for plug that’s 4.5 inches insertable and 3 inches max diameter, you really can’t beat the price.
This stocky anal plug manages to stay so cheap because it’s not pure silicone – it’s a hollow plastic base with a layer of silicone stretched on top of it. It’s still 100% nontoxic and nonporous, although it is quite a bit firmer than the silicone in the Egg Plug or Ergo.
The only downside: once this plug pops into place, there’s a huge dropoff in thickness down to the neck of the plug, with almost no taper. Meaning it can be quite difficult to remove once in place, especially if you’re just getting used to 3-inch toys. This goes for every butt plug on this list, but: for advanced users only!
- Price: an unbeatable price for a huge, body-safe butt plug.
- Massive Stretch: short and super girthy for a deep anal stretch.
- Not too long: meaning it doesn’t bump up against your sigmoid colon when worn for extended periods of time.
- Hard to remove: the drop off between max girth and neck on this plug is insane, and once it pops into place it may be difficult to remove comfortably.
- Very firm: not the softest silicone placed over a hollow, stuffed core. May be a pro if you’re looking for a real stretch.
We generally think that, if you’re looking to go big, it’s better to wait until you can get a higher-quality plug. But we understand that $100 for a butt plug is not possible for all our readers.
If you want a maximal anal stretch for less than $50, the Colt XL Big Boy is the plug for you!
The Anal Fantasy Series XL butt plug is very similar – firm black silicone and 3 inches max diameter. It is $10 more than the Colt XL, and we do like that the Anal Fantasy XL is slightly easier to remove once in place because of the taper on the neck.
More Budget Butt Plugs
If you’re looking for more great anal toys under $30, check out our list of the 10 best budget plugs. Very few of these toys are XL in size (especially under $30), but there are some great intermediate options on the list.
Sleekest Design: Spark Silicone Plug With Carbon Fiber Design
Spark Large Plug Specs:
Our Rating: 8.5
Insertable Length: 5.75″
Max Girth: 2.5″
Materials: Platinum Silicone with Carbon Fiber Design
Just to be clear: this large butt plug is actually made of silicone and not carbon fiber, so it is soft and squishy and not hard and firm. We love the carbon fiber aesthetic though, it gives a sleek overall look compared to most standard silicone plugs.
This plug is made by Blush Novelties and is your fairly standard butt plug shape, with a solid 2.5 inch max diameter. It is a bit on the long side at 5.75 inches insertable, which means it may be uncomfortable to bend over or sit with the plug inserted. But it works great while lying down and walking around.
You can also use the section cup base to stand the plug up and fuck your own ass to get a good stretch in.
- Neck size: thick enough for a decent stretch, thin enough to keep the plug in place over time.
- Tapered: great for anal training as the slow taper lets you relax around the plug. Gentle taper on the neck for easy removal.
- Suction cup base: lets you stick the plug on a hard surface and practice taking it in.
- Too long: the flipside of a slow taper is that the plug is a bit too long for all-day wear.
This carbon-fiber design butt plug is a great intermediate-advanced toy that doesn’t break the bank. The suction cup base is a welcome addition for a plug of this size, and the tapered shape of the plug really eases you into the max girth of the toy.
It’s also available in a small or medium if you’re not looking for a plug so big.
Best Mega Plug: Tantus Large Cone
Tantus Cone Specs:
Our Rating: 8.0
Insertable Length: 10.7
Max Girth: 3.5
Materials: Premium silicone
Features: Gradual taper for anal training
Philosophical question for the ages: at what point does a butt plug become a dildo? Or something else entirely?
Tantus’ large cone will definitely plug your butt, but it’s also not really a butt plug, more of a progressive anal trainer and/or dildo.
And what a huge toy it is – 10.7 inches insertable and a max width of 3.5 inches. It also clocks in at a weighty 2 lbs 5 oz.
The beauty of the cone is that it’s usable for any intermediate-advanced anal explorer looking to expand their horizons. The cone has an even, gradual taper to it that allows you to take it at your own pace. Even if you never take the full thing (which you probably won’t), it will have done its job!
- Gradual taper: lets you train and stretch your ass at your own pace.
- Soft and flexible: despite being so massive, the Cone is flexible enough to never get uncomfortable.
- Free standing: just set it down and practice your squats over the toy.
- Not really a butt plug – can’t be worn like the other plugs in this article.
- Pricey – all that mass means a lot of silicone!
Tantus’ Cone is the last toy you’ll ever need for the ultimate ass stretching and anal training experience. Firm, yet flexible and made of high quality body-safe silicone.
It may look intimidating, but it’s really quite accessible for an XL anal toy, assuming you’re not trying to take the whole thing in every time you use it.
5 Things to Consider When Buying a Large Butt Plug
To be fully honest: neither of us are really advanced enough to take some of these XL plugs. We do quite a bit of anal play, but nothing that would venture into the “XXL butt plug” territory.
So compiling this list was a bit of a challenge. However, we have scoured online sex toy shops and Amazon for reviews, and these are the best of the best. We do own smaller versions of several of the plugs mentioned in this article.
And if there’s one thing we’ve learned reviewing sex toys: every body is different. What feels good to me may not feel good to you. That’s why we think this broad approach is more useful then just sharing our own, singular opinion on a toy.
How large is large?
We’ve found that most butt plugs are a fairly similar size and shape up until you get past a certain length and girth. Then all bets are off.
As a general rule of thumb, any plug up to 4 inches insertable length and ~1.75 inches max width is fairly doable for most people with a little bit of practice and a lot of lube.
But once you’ve started to stretch your limits beyond 2″ in girth, the sky’s the limit as to how much plug you can handle. At this point you’re an experienced anal user, you know how to listen to your own body, and you’re probably interested in pushing your anal limits to the max.
In that vein, certain plugs will excel at certain use cases. Here’s a couple of the more popular uses for large anal plugs:
- Anal stretching/training: usually plugs with a nice tapered shape (or graduated bulbs) to help you take bigger and bigger objects. A thick neck helps here, too.
- Depth play: these plugs will be longer, softer, and more flexible than your standard plug to accommodate for the twists and turns of the rectum and colon.
- Extended wear: Not too long, with a thick head and a T-base to sit snugly in place. Softer materials are better here.
In line with the last point, as you venture into the world of XL anal toys for experienced users, there’s a lot more variety in the shapes involved. Beginner butt plugs typically come in one of two shapes – a long thin taper, or the standard bulbous “spade” shape.
Large and thick anal plugs have much more variety, as experienced anal toy users tend to be looking for a specific shape or feature to take their play to the next level. We’re talking about ultra-long butt plugs, extra-thick plugs for a deep anal stretch, or just general novelty shapes.
Know your circumference
Can we get nerdy for a second?
We (and most toy manufacturers) refer to the widest point on a toy by the maximum diameter. For instance, beginner butt plugs have a diameter between 1 to 1.3 inches. Intermediate level plugs are usually 1.3 to 1.7 inches. And advanced plugs are generally 1.7 inches or larger.
But all those numbers are the diameter of the toy – not the circumference. For a quick geometry lesson:
circumference = diameter * 3.14
Keep in mind that the circumference of the butt plug is the actual surface area your asshole will have to take in.
For example: an intermediate plug with 1.5 inch diameter has a circumference of roughly 4.7 inches. A plug 1.75 inches in diameter has a circumference of 5.5 inches!
It all adds up quickly, and it can be a little deceptive as you get into larger and larger anal toys. Here’s a quick chart breaking down circumference to diameter ratios for some common sex toy girths:
So for every inch you add in diameter, you’re really adding 3.14 inches in total circumference. And it gets progressively harder the larger a toy is. The first inch is the easiest!
Does the toy help you stretch?
Does the toy increase in size gradually to help you acclimate to its widest point? Or does it hit max girth almost instantly?
Put another way, is the toy a journey or a destination?
If the toy puts the widest point right off the bat, then you should be sure you can handle the girth of the toy before making a purchase. Whereas some of the toys on this list have more of a taper and help you ease into the biggest parts.
Big butt plugs = big cost
Large and XL sex toys require a lot of material, especially when you think about volume to surface area ratios. This means, whether you’re looking for a glass, metal, or silicone butt plug, that a lot of “stuff” is required to make it.
And that all translates to a higher cost for you, the end user. It may be tempting to opt for a large butt plug made of cheaper materials like PVC, or latex rubber since they’re 1/2 to 1/3 the cost of an equivalent silicone toy, but we don’t recommend it unless you plan on replacing your large toy every 3-6 months.
You could use a condom with some of those materials, but the cost of constantly buying condoms for your toy adds up quickly – and wasn’t the whole purpose of buying cheaper materials to save money? Plus we don’t think it’s as fun to have to worry about the condom.
The end result: we almost always recommend buying silicone over PVC/Latex/Rubber. If you can’t afford a large silicone, glass, or metal butt plug, you definitely can’t afford the potential trip to the hospital from putting toxic materials in your ass.
What is a “large or thick” butt plug?
When it comes to anal sex toys, we’re generally talking about the max width at the widest point of the toy – in either circumference or diameter. Most toy makers use the diameter of the toy, so that’s our preferred measurement for consistency’s sake.
We define a large butt plug as one roughly 2 inches in max diameter or thicker. As far as length goes, anything longer than about 4 inches would be considered long for a butt plug.
How do I practice for one of these big toys?
With a smaller butt plug or anal trainer set! Look for something with a gradual taper or progressively larger bulbs so you can practice taking bigger parts of the toy slowly.
Large anal toys provide powerful sensations to your sphincter muscles, and it’s important to get used to the sensations on smaller toys before jumping right into the big leagues.
Are there health concerns for using extra large or long butt plugs?
There are definitely a few things to keep in mind, but as long as XL toys are used properly they pose no health risks.
- Body safe materials – The colon absorbs all kinds of particles directly into your bloodstream; are you using an anal toy made of nonporous, nontoxic materials?
- Use the right thickness – going too fast and pushing your limits can cause a lot of pain, and in extreme cases, hemorrhoids and anal tears.
- Be careful with depth play – About 4-6 inches into your ass you’ll run into the S-shaped sigmoid colon. A toy that is too long and firm can press up against this with the tip end and cause irritation to your large intestine.
Always listen to your body – especially when using an XL anal toy – and take everything at a comfortable pace.
How is that giant toy going to fit into my tight asshole?
The same way you get to Carnegie Hall: practice, and lube. Lots of lube.
The key is to ensure a proper warm up for anal sex. Start small, and gradually move on to bigger and bigger toys. We’d generally recommend the following size increments:
- 1 inch max diameter
- 1.3 inches max diameter
- 1.5 inches max diameter
- 1.8 inches max diameter
- 2 inches max diameter
- 2.3 inches max diameter
And so on, jumping up between 1/4 to 1/3 inches with every bigger toy. Over time you’ll learn to relax your inner sphincter, so you won’t need to use 6 toys every time you want to warm up.
Or you could always get a single large toy with a nice taper that lets you size up at your own pace.
Will using XL anal toys permanently damage my asshole?
The anus, specifically the sphincter muscles, will generally snap back to its original size and shape after your typical anal play session. If you’re not doing crazy anal play every day or for hours at a time, you’ll be fine.
That said, there is peer-reviewed evidence to suggest that more frequent anal play is correlated with incontinence issues. It’s not covered in the study, but we can only guess that doing extreme anal stretching with a long-term plug, for example, would also contribute. After all, using a thick butt plug can loosen up the sphincters over time to take in bigger objects, so it stands to reason the same would be true for objects leavings your anus.
If you routinely engage in anal play with large toys, consider adding some anal kegels to your daily routine to help keep the sphincter muscles tight and strong.
What kind of lube should I be using?
If possible, silicone lube is generally the smoothest, softest, and longest-lasting. Problem is, it can’t be used with silicone toys, which are by far the most common type of anal toy. Ideal for metal or glass toys, or for anal sex.
Water-based lubes are fine for silicone toys, but they’re thinner and only last for 10-15 minutes at a time. Ideal for short-term anal play where you can reapply often.
Oil based lubes last forever, but they’re greasy and messy and sometimes feel a bit too thick. This is your best option for use with extended wear butt plugs made of silicone.
Never use numbing anal lubricants, as you need to always know when something is too much for your asshole, and pain is your best signal in this regard.
Do XL anal toys hurt?
If you’re not prepared for them, yes they can hurt. But anal sex, properly done, should NEVER be downright painful.
Pain is your body saying “hey, something is wrong over here!” If anal sex outright hurts, then you should stop immediately and re-evaluate.
Some things to try:
- Use more high quality lube (NOT numbing lube)
- Get more relaxed with a bath or massage
- Use a smaller toy or 1-2 fingers until you loosen up
XL Butt Plugs to Avoid
Doc Johnson Titanmen Ass Master
This massive butt plug with a 4.5-inch diameter is only $35 on Amazon. Great deal, right? Wrong – it’s made of PVC rubber which is 100% porous and who knows what other plastics it may contain?
You could buy it and use it for 2-3 months and then dispose of it. But why not just buy a nicer silicone plug that will last forever at that point?
Master Series 3 Bumps For Your Rump
We really want to like this XL butt plug, as we love the design of the graduated beads. But, again – it’s made of PVC which, while cheap, just isn’t a good material for anal play.
You could use it with a condom, but condoms get expensive fast. Just spend the extra condom money and upgrade to one of the good silicone plugs on this list.
This XL Jelly Plug
We’ve talked about the problems with Jelly sex toys in numerous posts are articles. But the gist is: they’re made with porous materials and they often contain unsafe phthalates which are an absolute no-no in the anal cavity.
This plug is actually more expensive than the Colt Big Boy on this list, so why would you ever buy it instead?
This Massive “Spade” Butt Plug
If you thought the drop-off on the Colt XL was rough, this thing goes from 2.5 inch diameter to a .5 inch neck with literally no taper whatsoever.
Once you get it inside you, good luck ever getting it out of your ass. Oh, and we don’t trust a T-base that thin for a plug this massive.